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How to know if the relationship is really over? When is the time to give up, let go and move on?

If you are lucky, there are obvious signs telling you that it’s pointless to continue mopping over a relationship gone stale. If you aren’t as lucky, then you are probably stuck in a half-hearted, neither here nor there situation where it’s getting harder to still label it as a relationship.

When someone asks this question, I tend to believe that he/she actually knows the answer. The only thing that is stopping them from admitting that is the answer is probably courage. The courage to face the truth and accept that as the truth.

Facts can be harsh. But how is it going to change the situation by refusing to admit it? Clinging on to false hopes will only do just that - the hopes will still not materialise until the day when you decide to let them go.
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You met this great guy and you’ve been dating each other for some time. Not in an exclusive relationship, but you have been spending time together. Phone calls that lasted for more than an hour, flirty smses are exchanged.

You feel good about him.

Now is the million dollar question that you want to find out.

Does he like you? Is he into you, or not?

How to know the answer? What are the tell-tale signs that he is into you?

Well, besides using your woman’s intuition which is not something I can describe here nor teach, I’ll do my best to “simplify” this complicated thing call “love”.

10 Signs That He Likes You

1. Watching the same movie twice

He’s seen the movie. Although he wasn’t very impressed with it, but because you haven’t catch it he suddenly changed his tune and said he really would like to watch it a second time.

And so by the way, if you haven’t seen it too, why not let’s go catch it together, he asked.

You know his intention is then not on the movie, but the company really.

So girls, do not expose his true intentions. It’s enough to know the underlying truth, be appreciative ok?

2. His car is playing songs that just sound too, familiar?

Because those are your favourites! You have merely casually mentioned to him once, and the next time he drives you, you’re in for a musical feast.

Is he always so attentive to everyone’s needs and preferences? Well, you observe how he interacts with others and you tell me. Ha!

3. He asks that question!

Well, he will try to be as casual and nonchalent about it as possible.  But no matter how cool he acts, deep down inside he is burning and dying to know the answer to this question:

“So, are you single?”

If your answer is yes, then this will be the next one:

“No way. How can someone like you be single? You mean, you don’t have a boyfriend?”

Now watch his body language closely. If you notice he is feeling tensed up by now, and totally relieved when your answer is “No” then you get the message.

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i experienced the most magical performance last friday, and no, it wasn’t a magic act… it was sigur ros.

this magnificent band hails from iceland and brings all the wonders of emotion when they play their music. have you ever experienced music so beautiful, that it captures time and captivate souls? sigur ros has that effect and i feel that the right love should too. call me idealistic, but i believe that you will feel the magic when the right person and right time locks in.

so there we were…all 8,500 of us sitting in the audience, under the open sky and beneath the sprinkling rain. then, right at the built up of their last song, with explosion of beautiful sound, came the rain. it was the perfect combination for an unforgettable experience that it triggered a ‘wanting to fall in love’ emotion within me.

I am ready and open.

sigur ros has that effect and all their fans know it. that’s why they basically sell out all their shows.

tip of the dae: go experience ’sigur ros’. if sigur ros ever roll around to a city near you, do yourself a favor and go see them. also, get their new album ‘med’ to get a taste of what i’m talking about. (click in the sigur ros album at the top right of this page to get it).

has music ever opened up your heart and made you fall in love?

The problem with the dating game is that there are dating rules to follow and most of them we forget as we grow older. You see, when we are young our fellow friends at school and college reinforce the way things should be done when dealing with potential dates. Yes you should wear that, no you never say that, yes you should do this, but no you never do that. Then we grow up. For a time we are completely aware of the rules of dating and we practice those rules every time we meet someone. But then we meet someone perhaps, fall in love and have a relationship. Little by little the things we learned over our formative years when dealing with the fairer sex are lost and are in fact unlearned.
Then one day we are unwillingly thrust back onto the dating scene only to find that we start behaving like 12 year olds. We call our dates too often, we are constantly available, we wear the wrong clothes, laugh at bad jokes like a fool, date the wrong people and generally get it all badly wrong. Then we get hurt or taken for a ride. Of course there will be some of you reading this that are the very epitome of dating sophistication, but the truth is, when you lose your heart you also lose your head. If you are going to date well then give these key do’s and don’ts of dating some serious consideration. Dating rules are very important if you want to win and keep your perfect match.

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A sensuous kiss from my sixty-five-year-old husband still gives me a tummy twinge like I had as his date and as his new bride.But this is the tip of the monumental essence of our going-on-thirty-sixth-year marriage.

What comes to mind are those treasured words,”How do I love thee? Let me count the ways …”I love Michael more than for kisses or our shared sexuality.Love has graced into our lives,built from quiet,whispering moments.

He shows his love by his actions.He cuts and splits fire-wood in the fall and winter months,to help conserve on our energy bills.He runs errands and shops for groceries if I want to stay home and write or work on my studies.He encourages and supports me in wherever a new goal’s journey may be taking me. And I swear that this man has more faith than I do in my dreams,what I can accomplish,and me.I love this about him.

In 1976,when he quit smoking,he told me,”I want to live my life with you because I love you — this is why I’m quitting.I want to be here for you and our kids.” I admired and respected him for this,but I was so young that I never knew the reality of these words of his,about his wanting to grow old with me.But here I am ,at age fifty-four,smoke-free,and loving the example he set for me.Being older has drawn me to understand “growing old together,” too.

He’s an insightful man,truly listens,and gives sound advice.He’s tender,strong,and understanding.For me,anyone who’s able to understand me like he does is near sainthood! His deep love and devotion took care of me throungh a five-year illness in the Eighties,when most men would’ve run in the other direction.

He’s humorous and tells delightful stories.It can be a story about his childhood or family,or about something that happened in the service or in college–whatever it is .he tells it with charm and knows how to entertain.He’s a very quiet man,so when he talks,I listen.

He’s my taxi driver,my lover,my friend,and mylife partner.When I found him,I found myself.As the years have grown,I fall more in love with him,in different,small ways.And in large ways too,like when he took care of the household uties and me after my major surgery last year.

I grew to love writing poetry and I compose my poems based on my true live of him.I feel that our daily activities are like unspoken ballets of things we do for each other.I’m in love with being in love with him.

And he cooks,too!

As to the seventh fairy,love is simple . She never expect to get anything else from love,because she can get them through other ways,but not love which cannot replace!

But ,for we ordinary girls,can we do it ? I believe most of them cannot. Because as to love,we count on too much,we expect to get extra value form love.We say to ourself,there is no love without reasons in the world. Why shall we love him if he could not make us promoted?Even many love guide tell us that to work well is not good as to marry well. Why cannot we get both of love and wealth that we marry an excelllent man?

Yeah, why not ? The problem is that where to find such benefits?It is very difficult for women to clearly know whether she loves him or enjoy the life which he provide. We often heard women commented on that men who are not successful and have not economic basis are not worthwhile to love.

NO woman would like to marry him as well. They lack what the rich men have, such as their breadth of mind and behavior. So are women! How many women who have never live in a rich life can cooly say like Ms.ZhangManyu, “It is terrific that you have money? I also have them!”When young, we could not understad why the rich wome would have clandestine love affair?

Especially in the feudal society, once were found, you would be submerged in the pool.But why did wome would like to risk their life to do it ? Wheather it exists pure love in the world?

I’m glad getting married didn’t cause Usher to get soft on us. I’m lovin’ his latest single, Love in This Club — the first single from his 2008 album, Here I Stand.

The beat is sick and the dance routine near the end of the video shows us why he’s still the prince of R&B.

What better way is there to show someone in your life that you love them on Valentine’s day than to show you truly care about their heart.

“Go Red For Women” celebrates the energy, passion and power we have as women to band together to wipe out heart disease and stroke - the No. 1 killer of American women.

Thanks to the participation of millions of people across the country, the color red and the red dress now stand for the ability all women have to improve their heart health and live stronger, longer lives.

The American Heart Association’s website is a fantastic resource for inspirational stories from women who’ve battled heart disease, light and easy recipes that will keep your heart happy and ways you can take part in this amazing initiative.

Take the time today to educate a loved one, and encourage them to take the Go Red Heart CheckUp online or by calling 1-888-AHA-2222 for more information.

By now, I’m sure you’ve heard of the first film collaboration between martial arts superstars Jackie Chan and Jet Li. If not, here’s the latest trailer for The Forbidden Kingdom.

The film co-stars include Li Bingbing who plays a white haired assasin and Liu Yifei who plays an orphan warrior.

Li Bingbing

Liu Yifei

Jet Li

Jacki Chan

The movie hits theaters April 18th.