Posts Tagged ‘Love’
Happy Valentine’s Day
Monday, February 14th, 2011Dating Online Safety
Monday, July 20th, 2009
Dating online can be great fun, stimulating and exciting. So let’s first get it into perspective. Some of us just like to have fun but are sick of the singles bars and other similar nite spots that are the last resort for finding a decent partner or lover.
They often result in the wrong person even if you are lucky enough to meet someone. Or, you may have once upon a time met someone that ‘fitted the bill’ but over time this has proved not to be the case any longer, so…long story short, you are now once again looking for a better fit.
You might be just plain lonely or recently dumped by that someone who promised to be there forever.
5 Things You Should Never Tell Guy
Monday, June 1st, 2009
In the realm of male-female communication, there are certain topics most of us recognize as single-sex only. We’ll spare you the details about the comeback the Jets made, and you spare us the details about Ethan, the ex who was so well-hung his penis had a nickname for him. This approach ensures that nobody gets bored, and nobody gets pissed off.
But love isn’t that simple. Fact is, there are other, less obvious subjects that men wish you’d reserve for your girlfriends. If you’re wooing a guy, never bring up the following five “turnoff topics:”
Turnoff topic 1: All the cute things your pet does.
We think of pets as noble beasts, as partners in adventure. Which makes it disturbing when you start talking baby talk to them. “Nipsy, wipsy. Your mommy loves you, oh, yes she does.” Coddling a pet makes men suspect that your ideal companion is completely dependent upon you for food, lets you dress him up in colorful wool sweaters, and can be castrated if he starts acting too frisky.
Turnoff topic 2: Your belief in alternative medicine.
I was talking to a woman at a bar recently, and we were really connecting … until she started telling me about visits to her vitaminologist. “He told me I had happiness stuck in my bladder.” No matter how important you may feel it is to share your spiritual side, remember: When you tell us about your experiences with aromatherapy, reflexology, or crystals, all we hear is unstable, unstable, unstable.
Turnoff topic 3: How impressed you are with what others make.
I was out with my best friend, Greg, who goes to law school. We met one girl who started assessing the crowd: “Oh, my God, there are so many law-school guys here tonight. You know, in their first year out of school they make $119,000!”
You don’t have to convince us that you’re oblivious to material possessions. But ogling a man’s paycheck — ours or somebody else’s — makes us feel like you’re attaching our worth to our wallets. And we know there’s always going to be someone out there with deeper pockets than ours.
Turnoff topic 4: How beautiful the scenery is.
When confronted by natural beauty, men prefer to contemplate it in silence. Women, for some reason, feel compelled to talk at just the moment when we most want quiet. I spent a week on a Mediterranean island with a group that included four women who never met a sunset they couldn’t ruin. (“That pink is so deep. I think it’s, like, the deepest pink I’ve ever seen.”) They failed to get the joke when my friends and I tried to give them a taste of their own medicine: “Look at that water! It’s just, like, so wet.”
Turnoff topic 5: Who your favorite celebrities are dating.
Demi and Bruce break up/make up; Oprah gains/loses 20 pounds. We don’t care. Pamela Lee opens her mouth real wide and accommodates all of Tommy’s manhood? Okay, we care. As a rule of thumb, unless they’re naked, we don’t want to know. Men have far too hard a time keeping up with their own relationships; the last thing we want is the responsibility of keeping up with the lives of people we’ll never meet.
Career women want love
Monday, May 4th, 2009
MANY independent Chinese women like to earn their own bread, even if their husbands are already bringing home the bacon. But a recent survey suggests that such women find more joy from relationships, rather than successful careers.
The 2007 Career Women’s Survival Report was conducted by the consulting agency Universum and released by Sun Culture Multimedia last month.
About 73 percent of the 7,000 women surveyed in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou said they would choose to work even if their husbands earned enough for the family. The survey also found that 77 percent define happiness as “enjoying a relationship”.
But striking a balance between career and family can bring challenges to the woman’s career advancement.
Bottlenecks
“In my company, women usually have an equal or even a higher starting salary than men,” said Gu Hua, general manager of Beijing Chuangjiashe Book Circulation Company. “However, as they begin to climb up the career ladder, women often meet problems along the way, while men can climb the ladder more easily.”
Both physical and emotional differences can prevent some women from taking tough positions, Gu said. But family life is often the main hurdle for Chinese career women.
Despite these challenges, however, some experts believe it’s reasonable for some women to want to be breadwinners.
“In this way, the roles of a family are decided by the parents’ abilities rather than their gender,” said Gu Donghui, a sociology professor at Fudan University.
Gu says women should have the freedom to decide if they want to stay at home or work to support the family. “Everyone has a different interpretation of what it means to find self-worth”
Gu Haibin, an economic expert from Renmin University shares that view: “Traditionally, we tend to regard the family as the cell unit of society. Some members have always been expected to make sacrifices for it. But, it really doesn’t matter who earns more. Economic independence and personal choice is essential for both sexes in the family.” (By XU WEIWEI)
Choosing a Career Over Love
Thursday, November 6th, 2008The choice between having a career or making time form love is an extremely personal and individual decision.There are many factors which can affect your choice,and there are many people who have discovered how to achieve a healthy work life balance that allows them to have both.
Careers and love fulfill us in different but important ways.Having a solid career gives us a sense of accomplishment and self worth,aside from the pacticalities of paying the bills.Many people develop their entire identity based upon what they do,elevating their career to a level of great importance in their lives.
Then there are those who measure their success in terms of having a pleasant and rewarding home life.They develop their identities based upon the accomplishments of their children,and derive their self worth through the love and support of a spouse.
Are We Over?
Saturday, October 18th, 2008How to know if the relationship is really over? When is the time to give up, let go and move on?
If you are lucky, there are obvious signs telling you that it’s pointless to continue mopping over a relationship gone stale. If you aren’t as lucky, then you are probably stuck in a half-hearted, neither here nor there situation where it’s getting harder to still label it as a relationship.
When someone asks this question, I tend to believe that he/she actually knows the answer. The only thing that is stopping them from admitting that is the answer is probably courage. The courage to face the truth and accept that as the truth.
Facts can be harsh. But how is it going to change the situation by refusing to admit it? Clinging on to false hopes will only do just that – the hopes will still not materialise until the day when you decide to let them go.
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sigur ros and love
Tuesday, October 14th, 2008
i experienced the most magical performance last friday, and no, it wasn’t a magic act… it was sigur ros.
this magnificent band hails from iceland and brings all the wonders of emotion when they play their music. have you ever experienced music so beautiful, that it captures time and captivate souls? sigur ros has that effect and i feel that the right love should too. call me idealistic, but i believe that you will feel the magic when the right person and right time locks in.
so there we were…all 8,500 of us sitting in the audience, under the open sky and beneath the sprinkling rain. then, right at the built up of their last song, with explosion of beautiful sound, came the rain. it was the perfect combination for an unforgettable experience that it triggered a ‘wanting to fall in love’ emotion within me.
I am ready and open.
sigur ros has that effect and all their fans know it. that’s why they basically sell out all their shows.
tip of the dae: go experience ’sigur ros’. if sigur ros ever roll around to a city near you, do yourself a favor and go see them. also, get their new album ‘med’ to get a taste of what i’m talking about. (click in the sigur ros album at the top right of this page to get it).
has music ever opened up your heart and made you fall in love?
How I Know I’m In Love?
Friday, September 19th, 2008A sensuous kiss from my sixty-five-year-old husband still gives me a tummy twinge like I had as his date and as his new bride.But this is the tip of the monumental essence of our going-on-thirty-sixth-year marriage.
What comes to mind are those treasured words,”How do I love thee? Let me count the ways …”I love Michael more than for kisses or our shared sexuality.Love has graced into our lives,built from quiet,whispering moments.
He shows his love by his actions.He cuts and splits fire-wood in the fall and winter months,to help conserve on our energy bills.He runs errands and shops for groceries if I want to stay home and write or work on my studies.He encourages and supports me in wherever a new goal’s journey may be taking me. And I swear that this man has more faith than I do in my dreams,what I can accomplish,and me.I love this about him.
In 1976,when he quit smoking,he told me,”I want to live my life with you because I love you — this is why I’m quitting.I want to be here for you and our kids.” I admired and respected him for this,but I was so young that I never knew the reality of these words of his,about his wanting to grow old with me.But here I am ,at age fifty-four,smoke-free,and loving the example he set for me.Being older has drawn me to understand “growing old together,” too.
He’s an insightful man,truly listens,and gives sound advice.He’s tender,strong,and understanding.For me,anyone who’s able to understand me like he does is near sainthood! His deep love and devotion took care of me throungh a five-year illness in the Eighties,when most men would’ve run in the other direction.
He’s humorous and tells delightful stories.It can be a story about his childhood or family,or about something that happened in the service or in college–whatever it is .he tells it with charm and knows how to entertain.He’s a very quiet man,so when he talks,I listen.
He’s my taxi driver,my lover,my friend,and mylife partner.When I found him,I found myself.As the years have grown,I fall more in love with him,in different,small ways.And in large ways too,like when he took care of the household uties and me after my major surgery last year.
I grew to love writing poetry and I compose my poems based on my true live of him.I feel that our daily activities are like unspoken ballets of things we do for each other.I’m in love with being in love with him.
And he cooks,too!
what do you love?
Saturday, September 6th, 2008As to the seventh fairy,love is simple . She never expect to get anything else from love,because she can get them through other ways,but not love which cannot replace!
But ,for we ordinary girls,can we do it ? I believe most of them cannot. Because as to love,we count on too much,we expect to get extra value form love.We say to ourself,there is no love without reasons in the world. Why shall we love him if he could not make us promoted?Even many love guide tell us that to work well is not good as to marry well. Why cannot we get both of love and wealth that we marry an excelllent man?
Yeah, why not ? The problem is that where to find such benefits?It is very difficult for women to clearly know whether she loves him or enjoy the life which he provide. We often heard women commented on that men who are not successful and have not economic basis are not worthwhile to love.
NO woman would like to marry him as well. They lack what the rich men have, such as their breadth of mind and behavior. So are women! How many women who have never live in a rich life can cooly say like Ms.ZhangManyu, “It is terrific that you have money? I also have them!”When young, we could not understad why the rich wome would have clandestine love affair?
Especially in the feudal society, once were found, you would be submerged in the pool.But why did wome would like to risk their life to do it ? Wheather it exists pure love in the world?
Usher – Love in This Club – Official Video
Thursday, May 1st, 2008I’m glad getting married didn’t cause Usher to get soft on us. I’m lovin’ his latest single, Love in This Club — the first single from his 2008 album, Here I Stand.
The beat is sick and the dance routine near the end of the video shows us why he’s still the prince of R&B.